Mother’s Day learning curve

m,y friends’ moms

One of the interesting tensions about having a kid, our kid, was the perception of the two parents. My wife thought she had a pretty good handle on it, whereas I felt I knew nothing.

Okay, that’s a bit hyperbolic. My wife knew there would be some learning curve, but that she’d “get” it. I watched my nieces and babysat a couple of other kids, so I figured that I wouldn’t totally wreck a child – or I hoped not.

The moment I realized we, as a couple, didn’t know something was when we both failed at swaddling. Hospital nurses tried to teach us, but we both sucked as students. 

I think my wife was shocked that she couldn’t “get” it. My response was more nuanced; I figured that if I failed at origami, I’d also fail to master swaddling. It’s not that I was HAPPY that my wife and I didn’t catch on to it; that child had powerful lungs. But it did make me less incompetent. Or we were equally incompetent. 

But in so many other ways, she was and is a very good mom.

Trudy

Sometimes, I think about my mom. She worked outside of the home, often leaving us in the hands of her superstitious mother. How did she feel about that? Did she wish she could have afforded to stay home like many of my friends’ moms? It is true that I knew some of my friends’ moms more than my friends got to know my mom. 

(Interestingly, my dad got to see my classmates, and vice versa, when I was in 3rd to 6th grade  because he came to my classroom every semester to sing folk songs.) 

I often got the sense that my  mom thought she was still “figuring things out.” It could have been a function of growing up with her grandmother, mother, aunt, and at least one uncle, who seemed overly protective, I’ve heard.  Since my mom died 15 years ago, I can’t ask her, alas. 

Sunday Stealing — Thunking again

Scheherazade and Other Stories by Renaissance

Welcome to Sunday Stealing. Here we will steal all types of questions from every corner of the blogosphere. Our promise to you is that we will work hard to find the most interesting and intelligent questions. Cheers to all of us thieves!

Once upon a time, in a blogosphere far, far away, there was a popular meme called Thursday Thunks. Alas, the thunking stopped back in 2011.

Thursday Thunks again

1. Is there anyone whose home you enter without knocking? Does anyone (who doesn’t live with you) have permission to enter your home without knocking?

Not currently, but back when he lived in Albany in the late 1980s and early 1990s, a bunch of us would go to Walter’s house to play hearts (a card game). There would be a game going on four or five nights a week, with a rotating crew of players. Everybody knew where the key was, so there were people often coming in and out. I remember specifically May 4, 1988, when Walter wasn’t even there, having been delayed at work. The house was physically constructed so that his wife, in the main bedroom upstairs, didn’t even hear us.

2. Tell us about a school trip you took.

The parents of our friend Carol had a cottage on a lake in northern Pennsylvania, which our whole class was invited to go to several times when we were growing up. It was a lovely time. Carol’s older sister was there, often with a couple of friends, one of whom I had a mad, unrequited crush.

In reach

3. Name three things within arm’s reach right now (but they can’t relate to your phone, computer, or laptop).

A large red Dixie cup, which I use for drinking water. A compact disc player – currently playing Try A Little Tenderness from The Three Dog Night Story, 1965-1975; in the queue, Scheherazade and Other Stories by Renaissance (Song of Scheherazade) and Reload by Tom Jones (Burning Down The House with the Cardigans). And, of course, a slew of books on the shelf in front of me, mostly music books from Record Research, edited by the late Joel Whitburn, such as Across the Charts: The 1960s.

4. Weather permitting, do you dry your clothes outdoors on a clothesline?

The clothes dryer. But when we first bought the house in 2000, we quickly discovered that the existing dryer was totally inadequate. It would dry four items in about two hours. So until we could afford a new machine, we dried clothes, usually on a clothes rack in the spare bedroom, or occasionally outdoors.

5. If every flower in the world only bloomed in one color, what color would you like to see?

Purple. Our daughter’s name is associated with the color.

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#1 Country hits of 1946

Bob Wills and his Texas Playboys

These are the #1 country hits of 1946. Unlike the pop charts, which had 20 songs covering 96 weeks, there is only a handful here. That’s the function of the fact that in 1946, there was only one chart showing the most popular country songs.

In 1944, the chart called Most Played Juke Box Folk Records was established. It wasn’t until 1948 that Billboard tracked best-selling records, and not until 1949 that they followed the disc jockey’s most-played records. So in the 50s, you may see a lot more records, unless juke box, sales, and radio play agree.

That is, until 13 October 1958, when they consolidated all the charts into what became Hot Country Singles/Songs/Airplay.

Guitar Polka – Al Dexter and His Troopers (Columbia), 16 weeks at #1. “Recorded back in 1942, this instrumental… remained on the shelf for several years before its eventual release and 29-week run on Billboard’s country chart in 1946.” He shows up a lot on these lists, yet I had never heard of him before I started looking at these lists. See here.

Western Swing

New Spanish Two Step – Bob Wills and his Texas Playboys, with Tommy Duncan, vocals. (Columbia), 16 weeks at #1. Compare with Spanish Two Step (Vocalion, 1935), also by Bob Wills and his Texas Playboys.

I remember him well from the 1960s, even though he had very few hits after 1950. It must have been from oldies country stations such as WWVA in Wheeling, WV. “Bob Wills was the driving force behind Western Swing, a form of Country & Western that fuses Jazz, Hillbilly, Blues, Big Band Swing, and many more rhythm forms together, creating a truly Unique, Diverse, and Unforgettable sound. Wills’ shrewd mix of horns, fiddles, and steel guitar made for a swinging sound that grabbed the public’s ear during the mid 1930s and 1940s.”

 Divorce Me C.O.D. – Merle Travis with his cowboy band (Capitol), 14 weeks at #1

Wine, Women and Song – Al Dexter and His Troopers, 5 weeks at #1

You Will Have To Pay (for Your Yesterday)- Tex Ritter (Capitol), 3 weeks at #1. Yes, John Ritter’s dad and Jason Ritter’s granddad, though Jason never knew Tex

White Cross on Okinawa – Bob Wills and His Texas Playboys, with Tommy Duncan, vocal, 1 week at #1

The state of the blog

The `xmlrpc.php` file (?!)

FantaCo. Photo by Tom Skulan.

Kelly, the Buffalo-area guy, posted about going to the moon. And then nothing for a couple of weeks. I thought that Ralph Kramden had assaulted him.

As it turned out, his blog was full. Specifically, “I have been unable to access my site on the back end for over a week, because the database was full. I’m not entirely sure what that means, but I think it’s that after over 24 years of blogging, I finally filled up the space I’ve been paying for here. (Well, I was on BlogSpot for years and years, but I ported all of that content over here.)” I assumed he was physically all right; he had posted on Facebook.

This, of course, got me to start wondering about the state of the blog at rogerogreen.com. Lessse, what IS the name of my provider? (It really DID take me a minute to remember.)

No threats from viruses – yay! I had an entity fix a hack attack in 2024 and spent $30/year to maintain it.

“This certificate is valid and currently in use; it will automatically renew.”

My storage is at 30%; that’s comforting, given that I have imported not only MY Blogspot blog from 2005 to 2010, but also my Times Union blog from 2008 to 2021, though I didn’t blog there daily.

My CPU is only 4%.  But my RAM is at 90%. I had this problem six months ago, and it was fixed. Also, I bought extra RAM. Do I understand what was done? Do you understand the grown-ups in a Charlie Brown cartoon?   I’ll have to keep monitoring it and ask for help again.

Bill coming due

Ooo, I switched to this hosting plan in March 2017 based on a recommendation by the late Dustbury. I spent a bit of change back then. It expires in March 2027. Can I renew for another decade? I cannot. The longest available option is 36 months. Of course, the three years will cost 70% of what the ten years have run me.

I suppose it’s the cost of therapy.

One other thing: I have the Jetpack plugin. But it’s not responding as it did before, when it would tell me each morning whether my blog had been posted or had gone down. After “talking” with Jetpack’s bot, I wrote to my provider:

Hello, Support – I am experiencing an issue with Jetpack on my WordPress site, and it seems that XMLRPC access is being blocked. Here are the details: – The xmlrpc.php file returns no response at all. – Jetpack backups require XMLRPC to be enabled. – A “200” error is indicated in Jetpack‘s connection test, suggesting XML-RPC is blocked at the server level. Could you please check your firewall/security settings for any XML-RPC blocks? It would be appreciated if you could whitelist XML-RPC access for my site or adjust the security settings to allow it. Thank you for your assistance.

I barely know what I just wrote, but it was in my provider’s queue. Long answer (involving six emails and a few hours), after disconnecting Blackhole for Bad Bots, Really Simple SSL, and, surprisingly, Jetpack Protect, my Jetpack is finally working, which made me happy.

Louisiana v. Callais guts the VRA

Shelby County v. Holder

The SCOTUS ruling in Louisiana v. Callais gutted the Voting Rights Act. From SCOTUSblog: “By a vote of 6-3, the justices left in place a ruling by a federal court that barred the state from using the map, which had created a second majority-Black district, in future elections. Although [the] ruling did not strike down a key provision of the federal Voting Rights Act, as Louisiana and the challengers had asked the court to do, Justice Elena Kagan suggested in her dissent… that the majority opinion by Justice Samuel Alito had rendered the provision ‘all but a dead letter.'”

I am purloining from the newsletter of my Congressman, Paul Tonko:

“For more than a decade, the Court’s right-wing justices have steadily chipped away at the protections enshrined in the Voting Rights Act (VRA). Ever since the Supreme Court’s 2013 decision in Shelby County v. Holder struck down provisions requiring some state and local governments to obtain federal approval before making changes to their voting laws, Republicans across the nation have initiated a ‘race to the bottom’ to determine just how far the Court would allow them to go in suppressing the vote — particularly in communities of color. This week’s ruling in Louisiana v. Callais provided an answer, giving states free rein to enact gerrymanders that effectively disenfranchise vast swaths of their populations.”

Have we overcome?

“Justice Samuel Alito’s majority opinion — which invalidated a Louisiana congressional map that created a second majority-Black district in order to provide better representation for that state’s large Black community — relied on the perverse logic that actions to protect the rights of communities of color are themselves a form of unconstitutional racial discrimination. Ignoring the reality that the Voting Rights Act was the only thing standing in the way of Republican efforts to silence the voices of marginalized communities, the Court’s majority effectively declared racism a thing of the past and the VRA’s protections no longer necessary. This deeply misguided decision calls to mind Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg’s dissenting opinion in Shelby County v. Holder, where she argued that eliminating civil rights protections because they have been successful in their goals is like throwing away your umbrella in a rainstorm because you are not getting wet.”

Prior to Shelby, which I felt was in response to the election of Barack Obama as President and created a “We HAVE overcome!” false narrative, SCOTUS had generally ruled for the common good in my lifetime.

Shadow docket

But it is the use of the “shadow docket” that shows how SCOTUS has been putting its thumb on the scale. Voting rights attorney Marc Elias notes: “My law firm had sued Alabama over its illegal map in November 2021. Within a few months, we had secured a victory for our clients and the Black voters of Alabama. Unsurprisingly, Alabama went to the Supreme Court to block our victory in the 2022 election. 

“On Feb. 7, 2022, the Court put our victory on hold. According to Justices Kavanaugh and Alito, the emergency stay was necessary because of the ‘chaos’ a new map would create for the upcoming primary elections. Those elections were still four and a half months away.”

A similar scenario took place in Louisiana. So when SCOTUS ruled in Callais, “In Louisiana, where mail-in voting has begun, Gov. Jeff Landry declared a state of emergency to suspend those elections.” Around 42,000 people had already cast mail ballots by the time Louisiana halted congressional primaries to gerrymander.  “In Alabama, Gov. Kay Ivey has called a special session of the legislature to change its maps. Voting there begins in little more than two weeks.” Chaos indeed. 

The  Weekly Sift guy wrote What to do about a lawless Supreme Court? which gives a historical perspective of the Voting Rights Act and the subsequent attacks on it.

The undoing

Tonko: “In her own dissenting opinion in Louisiana v. Callais, Justice Elena Kagan aptly described the Voting Rights Act as ‘one of the most consequential, efficacious, and amply justified exercises of federal legislative power in our Nation’s history.’ But now, after decades of Republican diatribes against judges who ‘legislate from the bench,’ six right-wing justices have unilaterally rendered that landmark legislation ‘all but a dead letter.’

“This decision is a profound setback for our multiracial democracy. The Court’s actions have undermined one of the last remaining tools protecting voters from racial discrimination in voting and redistricting, undoing hard-won victories that brought real representation to communities of color for the first time in American history. “

Democracy Docket notes that the regime “confirmed it will target Black and Latino-majority voting districts across the country — using the Supreme Court’s recent decision gutting the Voting Rights Act as a legal weapon.

“Assistant Attorney General for Civil Rights Harmeet Dhillon made clear the Justice Department plans to go after ‘majority-minority’ districts — where Black and Latino voters are a majority of the population and have historically been able to elect candidates of their choice.”

NPR: Supreme Court paves the way for the largest-ever drop in Black representation in Congress.

The Hill: Supreme Court roils 2026 midterms with Voting Rights Act ruling.

The response

Tonko: “In the months and years ahead, we must keep fighting to enact stronger voter protections through legislation like the John R. Lewis Voting Rights Advancement Act. We must continue pushing back against racial discrimination in the lower courts. We must aggressively pursue fair district maps that guarantee proper representation for communities of color, and we must seek reforms to rein in the unchecked power of this right-wing Supreme Court. Above all, we must continue to mobilize and exercise our fundamental right to vote — because if your vote didn’t matter, they wouldn’t be trying so hard to take it away.” 

One example of the bs: Florida’s redistricting mess isn’t just shady—it’s straight-up unconstitutional, and they did it anyway. Rick Wilson breaks down how Florida’s leaders ignored their own state constitution, carved up districts to rig the game, and dared the courts to catch up. In response, Florida Man is being sued.

Unfortunately, much of the remedy is caked in partisan rancor.  “Democrats vow to fight back, ” and so forth. As an old poli sci major, I hate almost ALL of these mid-decade redistricting plans. Strategically, I get it, but it makes me sad.

What I DO recommend: Update your voter registration and mark your calendar to ensure your vote is cast in every municipal, state, and federal election.

 

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