Ramblin' with Roger

Sunday Stealing — Living in the World, Not on It

refrigigator

“Welcome to Sunday Stealing. Here we will steal all types of questions from every corner of the blogosphere. Our promise to you is that we will work hard to find the most interesting and intelligent questions. Cheers to all of us thieves!

“This week, while looking for a blog we hadn’t hit yet, we discovered Living in the World, Not on It. This meme comes to you from ‘life in the slow lane of the unemployable, unworkable, disabled HR Manager/EMT’. Too bad she quit posting because she sounds interesting.”

Living in the World, Not on It

1) You’re on a trip taking a tour through the jungle. You have a backpack with some food, first aid supplies, a pocket knife, a flashlight and a couple bottles of water. Somehow, you get separated from your group. By night fall you haven’t found your group and haven’t heard them looking for you. How long do you think you would be able to survive on your own?

First, let’s be clear that I will never voluntarily take a tour through a jungle. It’s not my thing; maybe I’d do so at gunpoint or something. That said, how long I could last depends on how much water I could find, how hot it is, and what unsavory plants or animals I encounter. I could probably survive about a half a week on the avoirdupois of my body. Water is the basic thing; also, extreme heat – I don’t do well with hot and humid.

Liar

2) Do you think it’s okay to lie to spare someone’s feelings? Why?

Of course, especially about things of no great consequence. I’ve known so-called “truth-tellers” who use “honesty” merely to create pain and prove superiority over another human being.

That said, I’ve long been affected by Sissela Bok’s book Lying, which I read four decades ago and wrote about here almost twenty years ago. Even the “little white lie” has consequences for the teller and, if they find out, for the person being lied to.

Talk talk

3) If a talking doll were made to resemble you, what 3 phrases would it say?

I don’t know about phrases, but it would use the word accoutrement in a full French accent; French and Italian words are inherently sexy. It would say “refrigigator” as one of the words I enjoy mispronouncing. One phrase would be “That’s suboptimal,” which I swear I heard from some press secretary or Cabinet official in a Presidential administration. However, I can’t find out who; it is usually used as classic British understatement, I have read.

If You Could Read My Mind

4) If the superpower to read minds at will were possible, would you think it would be cool and helpful, intrusive and wrong, manipulative, or maddening?

It certainly would feel intrusive if I could read other people’s minds, and I’m sure it would feel the same if others could read mine. The idea of the Thought Police is frankly terrifying. I believe the idea of NOT saying things was a good thing. It would also be manipulative and maddening.

It might be helpful if you’re dealing with someone who cannot speak or otherwise communicate. Otherwise, I have not seen the upside, although I suppose if I could read my cat’s mind… Well, maybe I don’t want to know that either.

5) Are drunk confessions things people can’t bring themselves to say sober, or just the crazy ramblings of an influenced and intoxicated mind?

Based on observation, I think both are possible. Still, in my experience, most involve people confessing affection, expressing anger, or saying something they just can’t otherwise get out.

Lydster: Echolalia

the most hunted person

My daughter suggested that perhaps I have echolalia. What is that? “Echolalia is the repetition of words or phrases spoken by someone else. Children use echolalia as they learn how to communicate. It usually resolves by age 3, but may be a sign of developmental delay or an underlying condition if it continues or appears during adulthood. It’s common with autism spectrum disorder and Tourette syndrome.”

My daughter has a friend who is self-described as experiencing echolalia. But the situation where she attributed it to me doesn’t track. She or my wife said something about an Impossible Hot Dog my daughter was having for dinner. Naturally, I responded, “And four white mice could never be four white horses. ” It’s a non-repetitive response.

I’ve been doing this for decades. When my mother would request, “Help me,” I might reply, “And I do appreciate you being ’round.” It was usually a musical lyric response to a Beatles or Motown lyric.

Over the last quarter century, it tended to be more likely a musical, such as West Side Story, Fiddler on the Roof, Hamilton, or a song from Rodgers and Hammerstein. The above reference is to the song Impossible from R & H’s television production of 1965’s Cinderella.

So I’m not buying the echolalia diagnosis.

Game on!

Still, she is very bright. My wife and I were doing the NYT Connections on June 26, and our daughter connected Lovelace, Bojack, McQueen, and Hawking as words with playing cards as the second syllable. We all knew instantly it had to be the purple (most difficult) answer, and it was.

Right before that, the Final JEOPARDY response popped up. In the category 20th CENTURY FIGURES: Ironic in light of her name, she was remembered in a eulogy as “the most hunted person of the modern age.”

One contestant replied (Who was) Sanger, presumably Margaret Sanger, founder of the birth control movement. One wrote Found, but Ken Jennings declared, “I’m afraid there’s no such person” (as Hunted and Found). The third player had no answer, but with a locked game, didn’t need to.

I was thinking of someone like Mata Hari, but my daughter immediately thought of Princess Diana; I had my doubts. But sure enough, Jennings noted, “If being hunted made you think of the goddess of the hunt, you might have thought of Diana, Princess of Wales.”

My daughter gleefully said, “You’d better put this in your blog!” I probably would have anyway…

1965 Middle-Road Singles

three Elvis songs

The category that eventually became adult contemporary started on July 17th, 1961, as easy listening. On November 3, 1962, it became Middle-Road singles. Then on May 2nd, 1964, pop standard singles. On October 24, 1964, Middle-Road singles again. Then, back to Pop-Standard Singles on May 1, 1965. Finally, it reverted to easy listening on June 5, 1965, a format it maintained until 1979, when it transitioned to adult contemporary.

1965 Middle-Road Singles, or whatever:

King Of The Road – Roger Miller. 10 weeks at #1; #1 for five weeks CW, #4 pop. A real crossover. I own the greatest hits LP.

Crying In The Chapel – Elvis Presley, seven weeks at #1; #3 pop

You Were On My Mind – We Five, five weeks at #1; #3 pop. I love the folkie harmonies on this song.

Taste Of Honey – Herb Alpert and the Tijuana Brass, five weeks at #1; #7 pop. I own several TJB albums from this era, including, OF COURSE, Whipped Cream and Other Delights. Herb, by the way, turned 90 on March 31.

Make The World Go Away -Eddy Arnold, four weeks at #1; #1 CW for three weeks, #6 pop

Matrimony

The Wedding – Julie Rogers, three weeks at #1; #10 pop. I don’t remember this song.

Cast Your Fate To The Wind – Sounds Orchestral, three weeks at #1; #10 pop. Oh, THAT instrumental. I didn’t know it by the title, but…

Save Your Heart For Me – Gary Lewis and the Playboys, three weeks at #1; #2 pop; Jerry’s kid

I’m Yours – Elvis Presley, three weeks at #1; #11 pop. I didn’t remember this.

A Walk In The Black Forest – Horst Jankowski, two weeks at #1; #12 pop. Oh, that song. On AM radio in the 1960s, instrumentals were often played as the news was being introduced.

(Such An) Easy Question – Elvis Presley, two weeks at #1; #11 pop. Another unfamiliar Elvis track.

A single week at #1

Willow Weep For Me – Chad and Jeremy; #15 pop

You’re Nobody Till Somebody Loves You – Dean Martin; #1 pop. I don’t specifically remember the recording, but I recall hearing him sing a snippet of it on his NBC variety show (1965-1974) each week.

Have You Looked Into Your Heart – Jerry Vale; #24 pop

The Race Is On – Jack Jones; #15 pop. I remember Vale and Jones from variety shows such as Ed Sullivan’s, but neither of these songs

Hold Me, Thrill Me, Kiss Me – Mel Carter; #8 pop. I don’t remember it, yet I own a Gloria Estefan CD of cover songs with this song in the first position.

It’s a distraction?

MLK, Hillary, Barack HUSSEIN Obama

I’ve been musing over how much people rush to suggest that it’s a distraction when FOTUS does something in light of his current crisis regarding Jeffrey Epstein or his previous crises. A is a distraction for B, B is a distraction for C. Maybe some of it is distraction, but so much is also on brand.

ITEM: Over his family’s objections, the regime released records about the Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. The files had been sealed since 1977, when the FBI turned them over to the National Archives and Records Administration (NARA). They were scheduled to be released in 2027. But know that the records were specifically from COINTELPRO, the FBI program (1956-1971) designed “to discredit and neutralize organizations considered subversive to U.S. political stability. It was covert and often used extralegal means to criminalize various forms of political struggle.”

Distraction? Maybe. On brand: Absolutely; trying to tear down a black American icon because he is too DEI. Incidentally, on Juneteenth, he took the opportunity to say that America has “too many non-working holidays.”

ITEM: Attorney General Bondi announced that the DOJ has released additional documents from the FBI’s investigation into former Secretary of State Hillary Clinton’s email server.

Distraction?: Almost certainly; isn’t that a rerun? On brand? Definitely! In 2016, then-Republican candidate insisted that her use of a private server had been criminal and made “Lock her up!” a chant at his rallies.

BHO

ITEM: FOTUS also attacked former president Barack Obama, claiming that he and Hillary “tried to rig the [2016] election, and they got caught. And there should be very severe consequences for that.” Director of National Intelligence Tulsi Gabbard is getting back on FOTUS’ good side, after her Iran intel ‘betrayal,’ by calling for their prosecution for participating in a ‘treasonous conspiracy’ against FOTUS for indicating that Russian operatives had worked on his behalf during the 2016 presidential election.

Distraction? Obama believes so, but I think not. FOTUS’s continued insistence that he ‘won’ the 2020 election and suggesting that they ‘rigged’ 2016 proves the ‘truth.’ This would ‘justify’ the Jan 6 insurrection as merely righting a wrong, and pardoning the insurrectionists as fair. On brand: From his 2011 ‘birther’ claims against Obama on, he’s obsessed with outdoing the black guy. He can count on his media sycophants to buy in. Red State: Tulsi Gabbard Posts Russiagate Evidence Obama Had Been Fearing. Gabbard to Newsmax: New Docs Will Refute Obama’s ‘Coup’ Denial. It’s all part of the retribution campaign, “this time with aides more inclined to carry out his wishes.” Not to mention an obsequious Congress.

Quid pro quo

ITEM: Deputy Attorney General Todd Blanche said that under AG Pam Bondi’s direction, he had talked to the lawyers for Ghislaine Maxwell, who was convicted of grooming victims for convicted sex offender Jeffrey Epstein. Blanche wrote that he anticipated meeting with Maxwell in the coming days.

Distraction? I don’t think so. There’s more than a slight chance that Maxwell will somehow immunize FOTUS in exchange for reducing her prison sentence or even a pardon, despite FOTUS’s obvious relationship with Epstein. On brand: 100%.This week, the White House account posted on X an image of FOTUS in front of American flags, eagles, and fireworks with the caption: “I was the hunted—NOW I’M THE HUNTER.”

Oh, you might want to read this background on the Epstein files: She Exposed Epstein and Shares MAGA’s Anger -the reporter (Julie K. Brown) who took down Jeffrey Epstein on what’s still hidden (NYT). Also, watch The Epstein File Fiasco (Legal Eagle).

ITEM: In railing against Joe Biden, FOTUS complains about 46’s competence. Yet 47 does his own word salads. For instance, recently speaking in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, FOTUS claimed that his late uncle John Trump taught Unabomber Ted Kaczynski at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology. He then claimed that he quizzed his uncle about his supposed student. This did not happen.

Distraction? I don’t know what to make of these ramblings – he does it a LOT – where he tells a demonstrably false story, with no obvious takeaway. And he was doing this in 2024, before the election Distraction? Maybe. Or dementia?

Leslie went on the 2025 Dave Coz cruise

cousins

Leslie and Rebecca with the cruise director

My sister Leslie went on the 2025 Dave Coz cruise. Someone described it as a “24/7 daytime adventure from Amsterdam to Norway and finally Iceland. The sun never sets this time of year. Wow, what an excursion.”

The website says, “Our guests are fully immersed with the energy and sounds of an array of all-star talent, guided tours, relaxation, and fine dining. ‘Seeing the world together through music’; that’s what the Dave Koz and Friends at Sea cruise is all about!” The 2026 tour of Brazil, Uruguay, and Argentina is already sold out, and a waitlist exists.

Leslie has been on a few of these Koz tours, generally as the guest of Rebecca Jade, a ship performer and, not coincidentally, Leslie’s daughter. Based on her comments and those reposted by others, Leslie was particularly taken by Iceland.

In 2018, Leslie dueted with Larry Graham of Sly and the Family Stone. She’s participated in some music competitions onboard and has done well, which is not a surprise, as she’s been singing virtually all her life.

In anticipation of her birthday, I played a CD called Harbor City Heights Worship 2009 on which she appears. It’s not a fair representation of the range of her skills, and they misspell her first name as Lesley(!), but I can hear her vocals, usually in the harmonies. Anyway, I found it on YouTube.

I have other recordings of hers, mostly her solos during her church’s Advent/Christmas Eve services. Alas, I’ve never come across any Green Family Singers recordings.

Genealogy

In the past year, Leslie has spoken to two of our cousins, one each on our mother’s and father’s side, trying to fill the holes in the family tree. As I’ve noted, our lineage has peculiar mysteries, going back not that far.

Anyway, happy birthday, Leslie! If you ever retire, you must transcribe all that family data!