The Lydster, Part 81: Letting Go

This is what has ultimately started to work: altruism.


Part of the difficulty with this Christmas is that The Daughter did not seem to want to give up anything she already has. Games and toys, especially stuffed animals, that are well past her presumed age range she holds onto like a canteen of water in the desert. She also has all of her books, but I give that a bit of a pass. Her daily homework involves her reading 15 minutes each weekday, so the books we used to read to her, she can now read herself.

Not that a few items didn’t disappear, usually when worn out or broken or games rendered incomplete. I did this experiment of taking some of the plush toys to the attic. If she said, “I can’t find X” toy, I’d bring it down. then a few months later, I showed her the whole cache, and of course, she wanted them all.

Her mother’s tactic involved telling her that she needed to get rid of some items so that Santa could bring her more stuff. This has been pretty much a dismal failure.

But this is what has ultimately started to work: altruism. Carol & I have a couple of friends who have a girl and a boy a couple of years younger than she is. Items she has outgrown now end up in the hands of her little pals. Even a book that just had pictures and names of items, rather than text, she has deemed too juvenile. And her potty training book she gave to the parents of the child across the street.

So now there IS room for the dolls and games and books she received yesterday.

 

Merry Christmas QUESTIONS

Merry Christmas 1989 spelled out with bodies on the south polar ice.


MERRY CHRISTMAS!

How are spending your Christmas? (Or how did you spend it?)
What did you give as gifts? What did you get?
If you’re Jewish, are you spending it at a Chinese restaurant?

The great thing about this year, contrary to some (most) previous years, is that my wife became a much better hinter than she used to be. So she knows she’s getting that handmade wool sweater she saw at the Medieval Faire back in October. But the upside is that I had her primary gift, in OCTOBER.

There is a songbook I came across that reminded me of a book I grew up with in elementary school. One of my sisters got that, and I bought a copy for myself as well. My other sister’s getting a very nice item that surprisingly did not go in my blog contest. My nieces are getting items from the SERRV catalog. My mother remains impossible, but she DOES like her word puzzles, so that’s what she got.

I’ll talk about the daughter tomorrow.
Merry Christmas 1989 spelled out with bodies on the south polar ice.

All I Want For Christmas Is You

If it’s always the same, why does it always feel new to me?


I’m serious now. What I would like most from you this Christmas is for you to participate in a little thing I call ASK ROGER ANYTHING, which involves…well, you know. And he -[stop talking about yourself in the third person] – I have to answer your questions honestly, leaving a modicum of wiggle room for obfuscation. You may ask in the comment section or, if you’d rather, e-mail me. I will say that responses to e-mails of people who wish to remain anonymous will probably be murkier than those from people who own their requests. I’ll be answering them during Christmastide, which is to say the 12 days of Christmas, that period between tomorrow and Epiphany.

Meanwhile, I’ll be singing tonight at church. No surprise; that’s what I usually do on Christmas Eve. In fact, what’s surprising is when I DON’T, the last time I spent Christmas with my mother a couple of years ago. I’ve gone primarily to two churches in the past 25 years and the way the latter part of the Christmas Eve service plays out is pretty much the same. Hand out candles, light candles, dim lights while singing Silent Night, turn on lights, blow out candles, sing Joy to the World. If it’s always the same, why does it always feel new to me?

Did you see this rendition of one of my favorite seasonal songs; in case the link doesn’t work, try this. Can’t help but think that, at some point, I would have participated too; I mean, I DO know it by heart.
So it is replicated in the largest mall in Albany County; had I known, I might have ventured there for the first time in YEARS.

Getting Ready For Christmas Day by Paul Simon – the mp3 download with a description of the song and the YouTube post.
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Let It Dough

Beatles Island Songs, 153-144

Recommended: DM’s Beatles site.

JEOPARDY Answer of the day – POP MUSIC: Take 2 letters off a Beatles song title & you get this title of Paul McCartney’s 2002 live CD of his American tour. (Question is below.)

The rules of engagement

153 From Me to You. This song wasn’t on any album I owned until the Past Masters Volume 1 CD! Fine song, actually, but I just plain forget about its existence.
152 Within You Without You from Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band. An interesting, if ultimately slightly pedantic theological treatise from Harrison.
151 Please Mr. Postman from With the Beatles (UK), The Beatles’ Second Album (US). A song orginally by the Motown group the Marvelettes; this is a competent cover from John, but not better than the original.
150 The Continuing Story of Bungalow Bill from the white album. A very funny Lennon song, particular the falsetto. Not sure what it means, but that’s all right.
149 Ask Me Why from Please Please Me (UK), Introducing the Beatles/The Early Beatles (US). Like the Latin feel of the Lennon song. Also the double meaning of the word “please”.
148 The Night Before from Help! Just saw the movie last year for the first time in decades, a quadruple feature with A Hard Day’s Night, Yellow Submarine, and Let It Be. Lots of good music in Help!, but this is a lesser tune by McCartney.
147 Matchbox from an EP (UK), Something New (US). Ringo does a credible version of this Carl Perkins song.
146 Another Girl from Help! DITTO the 148 info.
145 Chains from Please Please Me (US), Introducing the Beatles/The Early Beatles (US). A Goffin/King song performed by a girl group called the Cookies. I like this Harrison version.
144 One After 909 from Let It Be. I didn’t realize until the Anthology albums that this was an old Lennon and McCartney song from their early days never released before. A rather jaunty piece, actually.

DM’s Beatles site, with:
– Comprehensive UK and US discographies with album covers, additional information, reviews, and comments.
– Complete song index with the lyrics. Different takes, demo and live versions, unreleased songs, and songs for others.
– Detailed history day by day, with pictures, links to albums, interviews.
– More than a thousand pictures of the Beatles, people close to them, magazine covers.
– Various information on the Beatles, their films, interviews, concerts, bootlegs.
– Popular discussion forum where you can meet Beatles fans from all over the World

JEOPARDY Question – What is ‘Back in the U.S.’?

The Giveaway: The (Delayed) Results

Funny thing….a dollar coin dropped out of the pages when I opened it up! Was that suppose to happen? 🙂

You know about the best laid plans. Way back on May 5, to inaugurate my new blog, I decided to have a giveaway of five items for anyone leaving a comment of five words or more, the rule designed to eliminate those who might leave a comment like, “Nice!” or “Thanks!” Besides, it was my FIFTH anniversary, so I wanted FIVE words, OK? At least one smart aleck left me a comment something like “So: Five words then, huh?” Hey, that qualified.

The entry period was May 3 through July 3, inclusive. I picked the latter date because one of the items, the Billboard book was supposed to ship in early July. Well, it didn’t; I didn’t receive it until mid-August. By this time, we were the throes of busyness around the Pakistani wedding, followed immediately by the buyness of back to school.

Then, I misplaced two of the items for a couple weeks, then it totally slipped my mind for a couple weeks until I cleaned the work desk and said, “Oh, nuts, THAT’S still here?”

I went into the comments section for the new blog and noted 372 comments. Then I picked the random number generator for six numbers. Frankly, I didn’t bother to check if they all qualified – and at least one was mine, which would NOT qualify. But if the post was unacceptable, I’d skip it for the next choice, which proved to be necessary.

I contacted the first person who got the choice of any of the prizes; once selected, the second person got the choice of any of the remaining items, and so on.

I wrote You may select ONE item from the following:
any one of the three items listed in this post, or
the complete Dick van Dyke DVD set
the CD -The List by Rosanne Cash
the CD-Michael Jackson’s Greatest Hits
the book – The Heart of Christianity by Marcus Borg
(later, when I found it, I added to the list)

1. Joy from A Raft of Apples requested that I send her something not on the list. “Send me a picture postcard. On the plus side, still only one trip to the post office, on the minus you may not have convenient postcard availability.
“I’m a collector of postcards and also a Postcrosser (random people from around the world send each other cards). I’m fascinated by the countries of the world and the cards are little moments of time and places complete with messages on the back.”

Well, how could I turn THAT down!

She received it and wrote:
“Hi Roger
Thanks for the Albany Skyline postcard, your home town beautiful in the setting sun. And also thanks for the UK way date, LOL, it also came with a nice clear US Mail cancellation, which leaves me in no doubt as it had Nov on the date so us Brits don’t get confused:-)
I agree with you, blogging is a great introduction to the citizens of the world.”
Well, of COURSE, I dated it day, month, year; it makes sense. The only reason why I don’t do it always is the possibility of confusion, such as on my work timesheet.

2. LisaF of peripheral perceptions asked for Beyond words: daily readings in the ABC’s of Faith.
She wrote:
“Just wanted to let you know the book arrived today! It’s much thicker than I expected it to be. The timing is perfect as I just finished my other book and plan to start reading it tonight before I fall asleep. Funny thing….a dollar coin dropped out of the pages when I opened it up! Was that suppose to happen? :-)”
Oh, yeah, that was in the rules too. One Presidential dollar coin of whoever’s coin was out most recently on May 2 and that turned out to be Millard Fillmore, the 13th and one of the least regarded Presidents. But at least the coin was pretty.

3. Scott of Scooter Chronicles requested The Heart of Christianity” by Marcus Borg. I’ll get back to him presently.

4. Amy B of Amy’s Miscellany also wanted Beyond Words, which I could accommodate. She said nice things about me – blush – in her blog.

5. Now here’s where it gets strange. I tell the next person, but I’m clearly not being understood, because she has never made a selection, despite e-mails back and forth. The opportunity is still open to her. But I didn’t want to wait too long; I wanted to ship them all at the same time.

6. As it turned out, Scott, a frequent commenter, got ANOTHER pick. This time, he took what I thought he’d pick in the first place, the Billboard book. He thanked me and noted that his son Nigel was impressed. “He said, ‘That’s a lot of stuff, Daddy!’ after I piled everything on the table. He especially liked the coins.”

So it’s not entirely resolved yet, but I wanted to write this during the calendar year.

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