The return of Sunday Stealing

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I welcome the return of  Sunday Stealing. It returned this past weekend, but I had stopped looking for it, so I didn’t notice it until today. I was going to dash through those Questions and then start on the new ones this weekend. My dashing, alas, failed. So here it is. 

1. Where were you three hours ago? Eating breakfast with my wife, which is almost always oatmeal, mostly because it’s quick and dependable in terms of my diet.

2. Make a confession. I recorded the Grammys and the Oscars. Since it was filling up my DVR, I thought maybe I should watch some of this, so I finally watched the Grammys. So that’s who Chappell Roan and Teddy Swims are.

3. Bad habits? Staying up too late. The trick is that when I go to bed and am not tired, I toss and turn for a while; that seems inefficient.

4. Favorite color? Green probably or some variation thereof

5. Can you drive? No, I’ve had seven driver’s permits in my life, 6 in New York State, and one from North Carolina

6. 3 pet peeves: People who block sidewalk access. They park their cars to block part of the sidewalk, or they don’t clean the sidewalk after it snows. Loud music on the bus. Stuff left on the steps that I’m likely to trip over.

7. Last person you hugged: My wife. This was institutionalized in terms of an FBH, once in the morning and once in the evening. The Full-Body Hugs were partly derived because my wife usually goes to bed before I do. Sometimes, I didn’t even know that she had gone to bed, and she didn’t say good night or anything. I felt discombobulated by that.

8. Something you miss. My 401K is melting because of some stupid tariff that someone thinks is going to make America a lot of money.

Alto Knights

9. What song is stuck in your head at the moment? I went to the movies several times in the past couple of months. There’s a tease about a film called The Alto Knights coming out later in March, which I have no intention of seeing. But the trailer uses a song called Natural Blues by Moby from Play, an album I own. Then I discovered that it’s a remix of a Vera Hall song called Trouble So Hard.

10. Favorite quote. I don’t have one, so I Googled one: “Tell me, and I forget. Teach me, and I remember. Involve me, and I learn.” Benjamin Franklin. This is how I learn.

11. Favorite band. I’m going to pick the last group I played, which was the Supremes. Going Down For The Third Time

12. Something you’re excited for. Working on the Project.

13. Favorite movie. IDK. Possibly my favorite recent movie is Conclave. Certainly my favorite short film is The Only Girl in the Orchestra. I recommended the former to my wife and the latter to a blogger buddy, and they both loved the choices.

14. What type of phone do you have? I have an AT&T landline with three locations, one downstairs and two upstairs,  and an iPhone 8 (which I had to look up).

15. Favorite animal: Probably cats. By the way, I liked the movie FLOW very much. I was waiting inside the Spectrum, and some folks talked about it. One woman said it should have had a narrator or subtitles, which would have defeated the film’s purpose.

Movie review: I’m Still Here

Ainda Estou Aqui 

Of all the movies nominated for best picture, the film I’m Still Here (Ainda Estou Aqui  in Portuguese) is the one I knew the least about when I went to the Spectrum Theater in late February to see it. I couldn’t even remember the name, saying to the ticket seller, “It’s the, uh, Brazilian film,” and they knew what I meant.

In 1971, “Brazil faces the tightening grip of a military dictatorship.” You first get a sense of this with a roadway police stop. Eunice (Fernanda Torres) and Rubens (Selton Mell) are living a reasonably comfortable upper-middle-class life. Eunice and Rubens clearly adore each other. They and their five children get along as well as a large family can. Rubens was in the federal legislature in the past but is long retired.

First, Rubens, then Eunice, and briefly, even one of their daughters are taken away and interrogated.  This turns their world upside down, “The film is based on Marcelo Ruben Pavia’s biographical book and tells a true story that helped reconstruct an important part of Brazil’s hidden history.” This true story is just one of many families disrupted by the government. 

Awards

The film won the Oscar for Best International Film. It was also nominated for an Oscar for Best Picture—I preferred it to Anora, FWIW—and Torres was nominated for an Academy Award for Best Actress. She won the Golden Globe for Best Performance by a Female Actor in a Motion Picture—Drama, and justifiably so. Fernanda Montenegro played the older Eunice Paiva in the film; she is the mother of Fernanda Torres.

On Rotten Tomatoes, it received 97% positive reviews from critics and audiences. And it did better box office in the UK than expected.  

David Sims of The Atlantic notes correctly, “By highlighting Eunice’s role as a parent, [director Walter] Salles pushes viewers toward considering the mundanity of living under a dictatorship — and the gnawing nightmare of lacking control in the face of obvious evil.” A strong film. 

The Putinization of America

“anything to stop him from talking”

Used with permission of Sarah Neff, c. https://www.sarah-neff.com/

The Atlantic ran an article titled “The Putinization of America” by Garry Kasparov, “the chairman of the Renew Democracy Initiative and a vice president of the World Liberty Congress.” Yup, “he was the 13th world chess champion.” The subhead is “Trump’s deference to the Russian dictator has become full-blown imitation.”

It begins: “We are barely a month into the second presidential term of Donald Trump and he has made his top priorities clear: the destruction of America’s government and influence and the preservation of Russia’s.

“Unleashing Elon Musk and his DOGE cadres on the federal government, menacing Canada and European allies, and embracing Vladimir Putin’s wish list for Ukraine and beyond are not unrelated. These moves are all strategic elements of a plan that is familiar to any student of the rise and fall of democracies, especially the ‘fall’ part.”

The article hit my email BEFORE Comrade FOTUS and Juvie Vance tagteamed Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelenskyy on February 28. As an American, I was embarrassed by the vulgar display of a transactional worldview. VZ has repeatedly thanked the US, so anyone stating otherwise is lying. (Lindsey Graham, as usual, is an embarrassment.)

I Googled Putinization of America and found these, some of which are behind paywalls:

LeMonde, 27 Feb

By . Both at home and in international relations, the American president seems to be promoting illiberal ideas and methods that are in line with those of Russian president Vladimir Putin. 

“He called Volodymyr Zelensky a ‘dictator.’ He accused Ukraine of having prolonged the war for three years, which started, according to him, because of the prospect of NATO membership offered to Kyiv. Is it Vladimir Putin talking? No, it’s Donald Trump. The confusion is understandable given the incredible turnaround in Washington. A slippery slope toward illiberalism, contempt for international law, neo-imperialist aspirations, politicization of the state apparatus, confusion between public and private interests and a cult-like attitude toward his leadership both in his team and in propagandist conservative media: The United States is ‘Putinizing’ at high speed.” 

The New Yorker, 20 Feb

By Susan Glaser. “No matter how many times Donald Trump openly parrots the Kremlin line, it’s never not going to sound wrong coming from the President of the United States. In 2018, at a press conference in Helsinki, Trump announced that he accepted Vladimir Putin’s claim that Russia did not intervene in American elections, despite our own intelligence agencies’ conclusion to the contrary.

“I watched the scene sitting outside in the glaring Finnish summer sun on a CNN set, with Anderson Cooper, who, after a short, stunned silence, concluded, ‘You have been watching perhaps one of the most disgraceful performances by an American President.’ Later, Fiona Hill, the National Security Council senior director who had staffed Trump at the summit, would recall what it felt like inside the room when she heard Trump’s words: she thought about faking an illness, pulling a fire alarm, anything to stop him from talking.” I knew FOTUS and Putin had the same agenda after Helsinki.

Katie Couric interviewed Glaser on February 28, after the White House debacle. 

Vanity Fair, 21 Feb

By Mikhail Zygar. “The rules-based order? A relic. Trump’s casual claims to Greenland, Canada, and the Panama Canal—and his cozying up to far-right movements in Germany and Britain—signal that the game has fundamentally changed. As Musk put it recently in a social media post directed at Justin Trudeau, ‘Girl, you’re not the governor of Canada anymore, so doesn’t matter what you say.’ According to many of my contacts in Moscow, the statement was so emblematic of the emerging global order that it might as well be considered its new slogan.

“Kremlin insiders have a term for this phenomenon: the ‘Putinization’ of global politics. Just three years ago, before Russia’s invasion of Ukraine, it would have been unthinkable for US public figures to flirt so openly with ideas like annexing a sovereign nation.”

There is an interesting Wikipedia page about “Putinisation, a term popularised by Martin Schulz, President of the European Parliament, is a perceived movement away from liberal democracy in certain Eastern European countries in imitation of the regime of Vladimir Putin in Russia. The process of reforming from an authoritarian rule to a liberal democracy is known as deputinisation.”

As Heather Cox Richardson noted: “On February 24, 2025, the U.S. delegation to the United Nations voted against a resolution condemning Russia for its aggression in Ukraine and calling for it to end its occupation. That is, the U.S. voted against a resolution that reiterated one of the founding principles of the United Nations itself: that one nation must not invade another.” [Emphasis mine.]

Whether FOTUS is Krasnov, owned by the Russians, or is merely a fellow traveler, the effect is the same: a danger to American democracy. The US is definitely in Putinization mode.

More of the 36 questions

Here are more of the 36 questions

A study by the psychologist Arthur Aron (and others) explores whether intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated by having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions. The 36 questions in the study are broken up into three sets, with each set intended to be more probing than the previous one.

Set II
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?
I don’t know what “the truth about myself” means. Certainly, I have no interested in knowing the future.
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
I wanted to visit all 50 states and several countries, but it hasn’t happened because of time, money, and changing priorities.
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
I have no idea. Blogging every day for over 19 and a half years?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
Honesty, comfort.
17. What is your most treasured memory?
Probably when the kid was born.
18. What is your most terrible memory?
Quite possibly, it was when my wife was having some oral surgery. I saw her give birth, which was a piece of cake compared with that. She was sweaty and uncomfortable.
And If I Die
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
I have a project that would be accelerated, for sure, because I want to finish it, and I’m the one in the best position to do so.
20. What does friendship mean to you?
A safe place.
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
It is an outsized role. I’ve managed to remain friends with some of my exes, or at least Facebook friends. I’m good friends with my high school sweetheart. Getting married at 19 to the Okie, and then… other stuff was complicated. The deaths of two of my exes still resonate.  My first girlfriend recently discovered my blog because she was making a point about Popeye and Binghamton television.
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
I’m not doing any of that stuff that obligates my wife.
She’s good at dealing with insurance companies. She used to work in insurance. That stuff makes MEGO.
She’s a very good baker and a good cook, too.
Our daughter would agree that she’s a great mom, teaching her enough culinary tricks to help her survive college.
As her mother ages, she’s shown to be a great daughter.
She’s an excellent driver.
Family matters
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
I don’t think of my family as warm. We got along well enough. My father was a disciplinarian for stuff I didn’t think it was worthy of being disciplined. My sisters and I all had different issues with him. My mother was kind, but I think he could have been overbearing towards her.
Yet, when I talk to people about their families, I think most of them have their own ghosts, their own skeletons. So I don’t know that our family was less happy than most. You often think everybody else’s lives are much easier than yours.
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
Things were generally quite good with my mom, but I felt bad about the last weekend I saw her not in a hospital bed. It was in Charlotte, NC, in 2009 when I visited her, my sister Marcia, and my niece, who graduated from high school. My sister Leslie was there, too. We went out to dinner after the ceremony.
There was a point at which my daughter, who was with me, needed to take her medicine, so I asked my mom for the key to the house so that I could take a bus to the house and get my daughter’s nebulizer going. She said No and gave me this “why don’t we just get along” talk. It infuriated me. I bit my lip. That weekend was the last time I talked with her in person.  The next time I saw her was when she was in the hospital bed in 2011, the day before she died; she was not particularly responsive.

Roberta Flack (1937-2025)

with Donny Hathaway

The first Roberta Flack album I ever heard was Chapter Two (1970). It belonged to my sister Leslie.  The opening track was Reverend Lee (Gene McDaniels), a PG-13 song about a “sexy Southern Baptist minister.” My all-time favorite Roberta song is Gone Away (Donny Hathaway, Leroy Hutson, Curtis Mayfield), which I’ve used in my depressing quartet of songs when I broke up with someone.  A song I didn’t appreciate as much at the time as I did subsequently is Business Goes On As Usual, a song by Fred Hellerman and Fran Minkoff,  which is a stark reflection of consumerism and war. I eventually purchased it and every other album mentioned here. 

I bought Quiet Fire (1971), her third album, which starts with the anthemic  Go Up Moses (Roberta Flack, Jesse Jackson, Joel Dorn). There are some lovely covers, but my favorite is To Love Somebody (Barry and Robin Gibb), especially the second half.

Roberta Flack & Donny Hathaway (1972) paired two Atlantic Records artists to great commercial success, reaching #3 pop and #2 RB. The first single was You’ve Got A Friend (Carole King), #29 pop, #8 RB, #36 AC.  Be Real Black For Me (Charles Mann, Donny Hathaway, Roberta Flack) would appear on the six-CD anthology 100 Years of Black Music. But the hit was Where Is The Love (Ralph MacDonald, William Salter), which got to #5 pop and #1 RB and AC. 

Finally

I finally purchased First Take (1969), which reached #1 on the pop and RB album charts. It was propelled by The First Time Ever I Saw Your Face (Ewan MacColl) after Clint Eastwood included it in his 1971 film Play Misty for Me. The single went #1 pop and AC for 6 weeks, and #4 RB.  The first song on the album was Compared To What (Gene McDaniels).

The Killing Me Softly album (1973) went to #3 pop and #2 RB. It featured Killing Me Softly With His Song (Charles Fox, Norman Gimbel) that went to #1 pop, #2 AC. 

Rubina Flake

Feel Like Makin’ Love (1975) is the singer’s first album, under the pseudonym Rubina Flake, to be produced by Flack herself. I Can See The Sun In Late December (Stevie Wonder), at nearly 13 minutes, is about 6 minutes too long, but interesting.  She’s Not Blind (Stuart Scharf) is my favorite song on the album. The title track (Gene McDaniels) went to #1 on pop, RB (5 weeks) and AC (2 weeks) charts. 

Blue Lights in the Basement (1977) starts with the song Why Don’t You Move In With Me (Gene McDaniels); the intro is grand. When I saw Roberta at First Night in Albany, NY, in the late 1990s, she could not replicate the great piano line. The Closer I Get To You (Reggie Lucas, James Mtume) is a duet with Donny Hathaway that went to #2 pop, #1 RB for 2 weeks, #3 AC

Roberta Flack (1978) was a contractual obligation album. If I Ever See You Again did go #1 AC for 3 weeks, #24 pop, #37 RB

Dakota

Roberta Flack Featuring Donny Hathaway (1980) featured only two pieces with her old singing partner. You Are My Heaven (Eric Mercury, Stevie Wonder) #8 RB, #46 AC, #47 pop, is the last song Hathaway would ever record. “After having dinner with Flack at her residence in the Dakota,  Hathaway had then returned to his suite on the fifteenth floor of Essex House, later fatally falling from the window of his suite.”

I missed buying a couple of her albums before Oasis (1988). The title track (Marcus Miller, Mark Stephens) went to #1 RB, # 13 AC

The last album of hers I bought was Let It Be Roberta: Roberta Flack Sings the Beatles (2012). Roberta lived across the hall from John and Yoko in the Dakota building in New York City. Here, There, and Everywhere is the only live track.

My post from 2012. Obits from Variety, Rolling Stone, and THR. From the latter: “In November 2022, it was revealed that she had been diagnosed with ALS, also known as Lou Gehrig’s disease, and could no longer sing. In 2016, she suffered a stroke, and she retired from performing two years later.”

Roberta Flack Performs “Killing Me Softly” and “Just Like a Woman” | Carson Tonight Show. Air date: July 13th, 1973

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