With a good friend

I spent time with a good friend of mine sometime in the past five years. We were working on a project that was very dear to my heart. My friend threw themselves in with vigor and enthusiasm that suggested personal involvement. It was quite touching to me.

On day two, pretty much out of the blue, my friend said, “You know, I’m really sorry for all the…” And I cut them off. “YOU’RE sorry? I’m the one who ought to be apologizing!” And that was that because there was no useful reason to rehash our many individual failings over time because they remember, and I remember. And now, it’s all good.

Sometimes, you can follow the trajectory of a relationship over a lot of years. Thinking back, you wonder how you survived all of the Sturm und Drang that the relationship went through and come out okay. Actually, way better than okay.

The obvious Beatles reference

I’d been thinking a lot about how people enter and sometimes leave one’s circle. At a local store, I saw someone who used to work on my floor at work. I hadn’t seen them in three years, but we picked up as though almost no time had passed.

I have friends I’ve known since kindergarten, second grade, high school, or the first day of college, and we’re still in touch. In many ways, I’m a very lucky guy.

Even those relationships that seem to have faded away, I still find value in our time.

My goodness, this feels a lot like some of the lyrics of The Beatles’ song In My Life. Specifically, “I know I’ll never lose affection For people and things that went before.” When I was younger, I thought it was an overly sentimental song, and not in a good way. As I’ve gotten older, I find that I’ve become more sentimental and, occasionally, even sappy. So it goes.

A worker organizing resource website

UNION!

Department of LaborThe US Department of Labor is asking: “What has organizing a union meant for you? We want to hear your story.
“We’re gathering stories from workers for a new U.S. Department of Labor worker organizing resource website about how successful union organizing campaigns made their jobs better.”

Tell us:

What made you decide you wanted to organize a union at your job?
How has having a union improved your life?
What does being part of a union mean to you and your family?
Or anything else you’d like to share about your experience organizing a union!

Being familiar with others’ attempts at unionization, I find this a potentially helpful resource.

On the ground

I don’t know how I got on the email list for Union City, the Metro Washington Council News, AFL-CIO. But I’m glad I do. From August 15, “After a nine-day strike, ATU Local 689 MetroAccess workers have approved a new contract with private contractor Transdev. The more than 200 paratransit drivers, utility workers, dispatchers, maintenance workers, and road supervisors, who walked off the job on August 1 after months of intense negotiations, overwhelmingly (91%) ratified the contract.”

It reminds me that organized labor is not dead.

From Nation Of Change, July 29: ‘This victory is historic’: Massachusetts Trader Joe’s becomes first to unionize
“Our worker-led union ensures that we are protected and properly compensated—on our terms,” explained a crew member at the Hadley store.

From Truthout, June 23: Maine Chipotle Workers File to Form Company’s First-Ever Union. The workers recently staged a walkout over understaffing and safety concerns.

On the other hand, from Daily Koss, July 28: “We are looking for volunteers”: Local Chick-fil-A looks for volunteers instead of hiring people. As a result of the pushback, “A spokesperson for the company Chick-fil-A, which is headquartered in Atlanta, Georgia, told The Washington Post… that the Hendersonville [NC] store had “decided to end this program.”

Take this job…

Check out the State of the Global Workplace: 2022 Report. Among other finds, Employee wellbeing is the new workplace imperative. See the Axios article, America’s workers are up for grabs. “Stress and burnout are rising in the U.S., but jobs are plentiful, and Americans are willing to move to new places for work.”

A long movie quiz: Sunday Stealing

Truth and Reconciliation

moviesHere’s a long movie quiz from Sunday Stealing, or so it was described. I should note that any answers to the superlative questions should be taken with a grain of salt. I wrote the first film in the category I thought of, except for Casablanca, which is my favorite classic movie.

1. Best movie you saw during the last year. CODA
2. The most underrated movie.  Cinderella Man, a boxing movie with Russell Crowe
3. Favorite love story in a movie. Love, Actually
4. The most surprising plot twist or ending. Sorry To Bother You 
5. A movie that makes you really happy. Hidden Figures 

6. A movie that makes you sad. Manchester By The Sea 
7. Favorite made-for-TV movie. Brian’s Song.
8. A movie you’ve seen countless times. The Wizard Of Oz, once in a theater!
9. A movie with the best soundtrack. West Side Story
10. Favorite classic movie. Casablanca

REALLY hate

11. A movie that you hate. The Leech Woman
12. A movie that changed your opinion about something. Long Night’s Journey Into Day (2000), “four stories of Apartheid in South Africa, as seen through the eyes of the Truth and Reconciliation Commission”
13. A character you can relate to the most. Almost any character played by Jack Lemmon, but especially in The China Syndrome (1979) and Missing (1982)
14. A movie that is a guilty pleasure. Animal House. I can watch this from the Germans bombed Pearl Harbor to the end anytime.
15. Favorite movie based on a book/comic. Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse

16. A movie that disappointed you the most. The Manchurian Candidate (2004)
17. A movie from your favorite actor/actress. You Can Count On Me (Mark Ruffalo, 2000)
18. Favorite movie from your favorite director. Some Like It Hot (Billy Wilder)
19 .Favorite action movie. Speed (1994), which is the first movie I ever saw with my now-wife.
20. A movie you wish more people would have seen. The Grand Budapest Hotel

21. Favorite documentary.  Summer of Soul 
22. Favorite animation. Toy Story 2
23. Most hilarious movie you’ve ever seen. Young Frankenstein
24. A movie that you wish you had seen in a theater. Dr. Strangelove
25. Your favorite movie of all time. Annie Hall, maybe; I haven’t watched it this century

1982 #1: fodder for Weird Al

three movie songs

As I looked at the 1982 #1 hits on the Billboard singles chart, two things occurred to me. One was that I’m positive I own at least 14 of these 15 songs, usually on greatest hits albums or compilations, even though there are a few I don’t particularly like. I’m not sure of the Vangelis track. The other is that a few of them were parodied by Weird Al Yankovic.

I Love Rock ‘N’ Roll – Joan Jett and the Blackhearts, 7 weeks at #1, platinum record. A song originally performed by a group called the Arrows. Weird Al parody: I Love Rocky Road
Ebony and Ivory – Paul McCartney with Stevie Wonder, 7 weeks at #1, gold record

Eye Of The Tiger – Survivor, 6 weeks at #1, double platinum record. The theme to the movie Rocky III, which like its predecessors, I did see. Weird Al parody: Theme From Rocky XIII (The Rye or the Kaiser)
Centerfold – The J. Geils Band, 6 weeks at #1, gold record

Maneater – Daryl Hall and John Oates, 4 weeks at #1, gold record. Weird Al parody: Spameater, which was not commercially released.
Jack and Diane – John Cougar, 4 weeks at #1, gold record. Weird Al parody, sort of: Buckingham Blues.

Don’t You Want Me – The Human League, 3 weeks at #1, gold record
Up Where We Belong – Joe Cocker and Jennifer Warnes, 3 weeks at #1, platinum record. Used in the movie An Officer and A Gentleman, which I saw at the time. Jennifer Warnes’ Famous Blue Raincoat is a great album of Leonard Cohen covers.

Abracadabra – the Steve Miller Band, 2 weeks at #1, gold record. Album cut.
Hard To Say I’m Sorry – Chicago, 2 weeks at #1, gold record
Truly – Lionel Richie, 2 weeks at #1, gold record

A single week at #1

I Can’t Go For That (No Can Do) – Daryl Hall and John Oates, gold record; Album cut 
Mickey – Toni Basil, platinum record. Weird Al parody: Ricky, based on I Love Lucy
Who Can It Be Now – Men At Work
Chariots Of Fire: Titles  – Vangelis. The only instrumental on the list. I saw the movie with my girlfriend and her son right after it won the Oscar, and we were disappointed. “That was Best Picture?” I probably should watch it again. 

How To Be An Antiracist

book review, of a sort

How To Be An AntiracistRecently, I did what was billed as a book review of How To Be An Antiracist (2019) by Ibram X. Kendi. I’m not sure it was a review as much as a reflection of how much I related to it.

That said, if I were to suggest a review, the pull quote by James Forman, Jr., author of Locking Up Our Own and son of a Student Nonviolent Coordinating Committee leader in the 1960s, would suffice. “Ibram Kendi uses his own life journey to show why becoming an antiracist is as essential as it is difficult. Equal parts memoir, history, and social commentary, this book is honest, brave, and most of all liberating.”

It is particularly honest when it comes to Kendi himself. The first section of the book is My Racist Introduction. He still has “nightmares” about a speech he gave at a competition on MLK Day 2000 at Stonewall Jackson High in Manassas, VA. “A racist culture had handed me the ammunition to shoot Black people to shoot myself… Internalized racism is the real Black on Black crime.”

Check out this page of terms by Kendi. Note the assimilationist ideas that try to “fix” people. This is an attitude for which Pope Francis went to Canada to apologize to the First Nations people. The church had said their language, their garb, and even their hair was “wrong.” Compare this with the segregationist ideas that “suggest that a racial group is permanently inferior.”

You might be surprised by the number of times people have told me, “Race is just a social construct.” Yes, I know, but it “doesn’t lessen its force.” Kendi cites Carl Linnaeus’ Systema Naturae (1735). His role in the origins of scientific racism was huge.

Microaggression

Like me, Kendi is not a fan of one trendy term. As he notes, “microaggression is used because, in a ‘post-racial’ era, this term replaces ‘racism’ which went out of fashion. Racism has become the R-word like the N-word is used for the word it replaced.”

I’ve written about the curse of Canaan. Kendi explains English travel writer George Best’s role in this myth. “Proof did not matter when biological racial difference could be created by misreading the Bible.”

“Assimilationists believe the post-racial myth that talking about race constitutes racism.” I’ve heard similar talk from segregationists who fear the evil Critical Race Theory will harm innocent children. The former group “fails to realize that if we stop using categories, then we will not be able to identify racist policies.” This is why I, as a Census enumerator in 1990 and 2020, as well as a librarian, continue to support the racial categories, especially since they’ve allowed for more than one selection since 1997.

The issue of colorism is an odd history. While some enslavers believed a body was better the Whiter it is, others felt “Dark people more perfect than the so-called human mule, or mulatto. I wrote about racial categories.

What got Malcolm X killed was the idea that Kendi states, that Black people can be racist toward White people. I was always bothered by the talk from the Nation of Islam about the “White devils.” “To be antiracist is… knowing there are antiracist Whites and racist non-Whites.”

“When Dinesh D’Souza writes, ‘the behavior of the African American underclass… flagrantly violates basic codes of responsibility, decency, and civility,’ he is deploying class racism.”

Space

Kendi opines, and I believe correctly about individualizing an error in White spaces but generalizing the error in the Black space instead of the individual. “How many times did I have a bad experience at a Black business and then walk away complaining not the individuals involved but Black businesses as a whole?”

Also, “whenever Black people voluntarily gather among themselves, integrationists… see spaces of White hate.” In the book Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria? by Beverly Daniel Tatum (1997/2017), “One reason students from similar racial backgrounds may gather together is that “connecting with peers who are having a similar experience as your own serves as a buffer, as a protective force…”

Kendi: “I became a Black patriarch because my parents and the world around me did not strictly raise me to be a Black feminist.” Certainly, black women experience misogynoir.

At a Friends and Foundation of the Albany Public Library Literary Legends gala a few years ago, I talked to Barbara Smith, a co-founder of Combahee River Collective. I asked if she knew my mother’s first cousin, Frances Beal. Yes, indeed she did. Both are mentioned on page 187 of the book. “Frances Beal… audaciously proclaimed in 1968, ‘the black woman in America can justly be described a ‘slave of a slave.””

I could go on, but this will give you a feel for the book. It is very readable and quite relatable, as he explains his foibles while trying to be an antiracist.

Ramblin' with Roger
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