Lydster: South Africa again

Amarula

The Daughter went to South Africa again, specifically Cape Town, from early July to mid-August. Only late in her previous trip in the first half of 2025 did she discover how easy the train system is.

Part of the appeal is seeing the beaches more often than when she was attending classes. She went to Muizenberg and Kalk Bay. She particularly appreciated the fisheries at the latter locale. Also, she visited Table Mountain again, Victoria Wharf, and Cape Point, among other sites. There were lots of penguins and some whales. 

She said that she only went to the clubs twice. She was never IDed because the drinking age is 18. Once, she went to Barcadia, “Cape Town’s first and only Retro Bar Arcade. Arcade games were included for free when purchasing from the bar.” She discovered Amarula and directed me to buy a bottle in Albany if I could, and I did; it’s not dissimilar to Amaretto, but I may like it better.

One cultural phenomenon she noted is that people were generally paid only once a month, on the first Thursday. As a result, many cultural entities, such as art galleries, opened much later. My daughter noted that the cadgers were more aggressive, more in one’s face, than they were in, for instance, New York City or Albany.

Planning ahead

She booked two places to stay back in late December. The first place was mostly fine, though she noticed some mold hidden behind some drapes in the last of her four weeks there.

Her second place, also booked on Booking.com, was far more complicated. When she arrived, she was told that her booking had been canceled because they had stopped using Booking.com in February. But she hadn’t received any notification.

After considerable negotiations with the rental official, they eventually found her another place to stay on their properties. My daughter doesn’t particularly enjoy conflict, but she didn’t feel that the rep was listening to her.

As it turned out, the refrigerator did not work. Another one was brought in, but it didn’t fit into the space it was designated for. The water from the faucet left her mouth sore; she boiled it, then refrigerated it, and it was tolerable. 

(Much of this was documented in a 25-minute WhatsApp message to my wife’s phone.)

To get to the swimming pool, she had to go through a restaurant. She found no towels, so she went to the main desk. When she attempted to go back through the restaurant, she wasn’t allowed because she didn’t meet the dress code, even though she had a blouse and shorts. Instead, she had to return to the room on the 8th floor and change to slacks.

One thing she did with a friend I met last year was compare American versions of various foods that they could buy at an import store. They found a South African version of Froot Loops cereal, which my daughter thought was “nasty” and her friend decided was “too sweet.”  

She told me a lot more. I’m sure she’ll say, “Why did you leave THAT out?” Mostly for time and because I can’t read my own handwritten notes.

Lydster: credit cards abroad

United Airlines to EWK

The joys of using credit cards abroad. Shortly before my daughter went to South Africa for the college semester, I ordered another copy of my credit card with my daughter’s name on it so she could use it there. While it didn’t always work, despite my call to the issuing bank, it was a largely workable system. But then, I received an email from the bank in mid-March.

“We’re introducing new features for managing Authorized Users on your account. If you have Authorized Users, they’ll be issued replacement cards with a card number different from the number on your card. These cards will be sent to your address on file and should arrive by May 12, 2025, as long as your account is not closed.”

That’s a pain. I called them, told them my daughter is away and having difficulty receiving mail there. The representative said they could send her the card to South Africa via the shipping entity DHL. Okay, problem solved.

In early May, her card arrived at MY address. The problem is not solved.  She has the account number, but using her card in person may be limited.

Newark

The other problem is that she’s supposed to fly back on United to Newark Liberty International Airport (EWK) in mid-June. Have you heard about the issues?

Is there a workaround? From here: “United Airlines — the largest carrier at Newark [which she flew going out, and is scheduled to return on] — is alerting customers through its app and website about ‘Newark flexibility.’

“You can reschedule your trip, and they will waive change fees and fare differences, but your new flight must be a United flight departing between two days prior to and two days after your original travel date.

“Tickets must be in the same cabin and between the same cities as originally booked, or LaGuardia Airport in Queens and Philadelphia International Airport in Philadelphia.”

Ultimately, the solution will be to fly to the DC area – only a couple of dollars to change it – and figure out how to get her home on the train.

Lydster: go to the South African consulate

Happy birthday!!

Last we checked, my daughter and I were getting ready to go to the South African consulate in New York City in mid-January. She was there for about 45 minutes. Her father had to stay downstairs, as did a couple of other parents, and there were no chairs; they specifically did not want us to sit on the floor.

Everything seemed to be in place, but we still fretted a bit. That evening, we went to see Maybe Happy Ending with a niece and her Significant Other, the first Broadway show I had seen since Newsies in 2014, and also with my daughter.

Shockingly, her visa arrived in a week —yay!

Jersey

On February 5th, my wife, daughter, and I went to Newark. My wife rightly hated driving in New Jersey, and the closer we got to Newark, the worse. One particular car was in the right lane of three heading south while we were in the middle lane. The car from our right decided to be in the same space we were in, so my wife had to evade the vehicle, not even having time to see if a vehicle was in the left lane to avoid this fool. 

We stopped at a hotel near the Newark airport and took a shuttle to the airport a couple of hours later. The shuttle driver’s driving made my wife nervous. “Jersey drivers” is an earned epitaph.

We arrived at the airport and went through all the processing more quickly than I anticipated. My daughter sat waiting for two hours before boarding, a bit annoyed that we got there so early.

Our daughter had a 14-hour direct flight from Newark to Cape Town, South Africa, and got a ride to her college. Before beginning classes, she experienced many cool and fun orientation stuff, including sightseeing. She seems to be enjoying herself. 

School days

Classes began on February 17th, and she’s enjoying dance, history, and art. One of the things she mentioned about her art class was that most of her classmates have been attending classes together for the past two years. She’s the only American there, and they’re asking her questions—”Why does your country do THAT?”—but they’re otherwise pretty chill about it.

She has had a couple of allergy scares, one while eating pizza and the other a pasta dish. Food labeling is not as robust as it is in the United States. And she’s had some difficulty with her credit and debit cards, even though we called her banks before she left the country. 

Last year, my wife and I went to her college in Massachusetts and spent time with her both before and after her birthday, although not on her birthday. This year, she’s 7,845 miles or 12,625 kilometers. We knew this was going to be the case. It’s a good thing she’s doing what she wants to: exploring the world.

Yet I feel a soupçon of melancholy that she’s so far away.  Happy birthday, my dear daughter. Enjoy your special day.