It’s the equinox ASK ROGER ANYTHING

Lydia is very curious about death. Specifically, she was fascinated how my mother’s cremains could fit in such a small container.

It’s finally spring (or autumn) and it’s time for me to relax and you do the heavy lifting. This is the regular segment in which you get to ask Roger (i.e., me) anything you want. Nothing’s off limits.

Now, as I often mention, I AM allowed to perhaps engage in a little bit of clever obfuscation, but I cannot lie outright. If you ask anonymously, the amount of trickery will no doubt increase.

Actually, I already have a question to start. It’s a query that Uthaclena asked last month that I’m too lazy to look up. The upshot was, “How is Lydia coping with her Grandma Green’s death?”

Actually, she’s fine.

A few things are going on:
1) She knew my mother, but not that well. She saw her last year once, the year before once. They talked on the phone rarely. Now, my mother, with my sister and niece, did come up a month after she was born, and my mom and my daughter had been in each other’s presence a few times after that, but the daughter’s not likely to remember most of those.
2) She has had a cavalier, even what others might call an inappropriate casualness, talking about death, e.g., the way she’s spoken about my father and my wife’s brother John being dead (before she was born), which I took as the naivete of a child.
3) She is very curious about death. Specifically, she was fascinated how my mother’s cremains could fit in such a small container. What is the process?

So ask away.

Author: Roger

I'm a librarian. I hear music, even when it's not being played. I used to work at a comic book store, and it still informs my life. I won once on JEOPARDY! - ditto.

8 thoughts on “It’s the equinox ASK ROGER ANYTHING”

  1. Here’s my question –

    With all the rampant de-funding that seems to be happening (NPR, Americorps), do you think it’s being done out of partisan motivations? Or simply (as I like to think of it) a case of relatively new legislators playing hack and slash without really considering the consequences?

  2. Children can say the strangest things about death.
    My son:”The woman was dead, well it doesn’t matter for she was ugly anyway!”
    My friend who has recently lost her 45 years old daughter told me that her granddaughter said: “Auntie M died and you will miss her, but she lives in your head!”
    My daughter warned her three years old son to be quiet in the church yard. He answered amazed:”But they are all dead people over here!”

  3. Do you think State budget cuts will affect your librarian job? How about your wife’s job? I know Medicaid cuts have already cost me one job, and might cost me my present one.

  4. Thomas I feel for you I’m in the same boat that might sink any time now. I retrained for a different job only to have funding cut. I was lucky enough to get tied into a temp job with a government agency. I now hear that this program may be cut.

    On death I think children are more fearful. As we get older not so much.

    My question: Have you considered what you’d do if you had to change careers?

  5. My burning question is: Did you take that photo yourself or did you *pose* that way for someone! šŸ˜€

  6. Lisa- my daughter and I were visiting my mother, sister and niece a couple years ago. I think that I was trying to entertain my daughter when my niece took the shot.

  7. I have always tried to teach my children about death. My son was only 7 when my mom died and my daughter was 2 when her sister died.

    Love the pic of you Roger!

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