A Peculiar Synchronicity

The funeral will probably be on Tuesday, to accommodate her out-of-town relatives, and the burial on Wednesday.

Well, if you read the latter comments to yesterday’s post, you know that my mom, Gertrude Elizabeth (Trudy) Green, died yesterday morning. She was 83, had suffered a massive stroke (9 cm, as opposed to the usual 2 to 3 cm) on Friday. And still I was surprised, and yet not.

Mom with Lydia

I’ll probably undoubtedly write more on this event over time, but I do want to make a couple of observations.

Thanks for the outpouring of kind words and thoughts and prayers that I have received.

Before each of my parents died, they each had a stroke, though my father’s was less severe. I was the last of the three Green children to arrive in Charlotte, and shortly after each of them saw me, they died. It was as though they were waiting on my arrival so that they could let go. there’s more than a little ambivalence in that.

I think this is interesting. When my father died on August 10, 2000, my sisters were by his side. Marcia had stayed over the night before and Leslie had come to relieve her when he was getting ready to pass. My mother and I were stuck at the house until I found a neighbor to give us a ride, too late.

I had stayed in my mother’s room Monday night, and Tuesday morning, I was amazed how quickly she died, at 8:50 a.m. I called my sisters but she had already passed by that point.

We’re meeting with the mortician this morning, but
the funeral will probably be on Tuesday, to accommodate her out-of-town relatives, and the burial on Wednesday, next to my father, at the veteran’s cemetery 40 miles from here.
I’ll probably continue to blog about what I had planned for a few days. Tomorrow, the actual train ride down.

Author: Roger

I'm a librarian. i hear music, even when it's not being played. I used to work at a comic book store, and it still informs my life. I won once on JEOPARDY! - ditto.

18 thoughts on “A Peculiar Synchronicity”

  1. There is always so much to do, paperwork and official business, I am sure you will be a rock to all around you Roger, take care and remeber the good times spent with your mum.

  2. I haven’t kept up with your blog in a while, but I do follow you on twitter and saw this. I’m so sorry for your loss. May you all have peace. xo.

  3. That is a real sweet picture of your Mom & Lydia.
    I’m glad you were with her when she passed.
    Peace to you & yours.

  4. Roger,

    My deepest condolences. The prayers of those of us in Buffalo are with you.


  5. Roger, my thoughts are with you. These times are hard, but an important stage of life. At least I have found it so.

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